Ronald Lee’s Natural Game Introspection

If it seems like I disappeared and fell off the face of the earth earlier this year, that would be accurate. This has been an interesting and enlightening year for me; I was dealing with the end of a relationship that affected me in ways I did not expect based on my previous relationships. When I got my head back on properly again, I sought to find out why this relationship had affected me so much: why was I (we) so heartbroken? I’ve had many relationships in the past, but none felt like the ones I had when I was a teenager/in my early 20’s and this most recent one, in the final stages and aftermath.

I figured out the keys to attraction and seduction in the late 1990’s/early 2000’s and had a few girlfriends, some serious, some not-so-serious, and some even simultaneously. I was living like a carefree bachelor. Typical and expected.

Slowly, as I grew older, my ideas changed, and I began to question what I knew and what I wanted. I challenged my belief systems and then examined society as a whole and discovered two things that really affected my outlook when it came to relationships. The first is that an incredible amount of what we are taught as societal norms are wrong and backwards… what young adults are told today about dating and relationships is tremendously outdated and are, in fact, confusing men and women when it comes to how they get together.

The second being that men were focusing on the wrong thing, there is so much emphasis on men trying to ‘pick some hottie up’ or ’seduce’ someone that they make this their end goal, believing that this is somehow the way to love and relationship satisfaction in the future (i.e. also called ‘playing the field’). In actuality, the meeting/attraction phase is just the first step and I contend that if guys (and girls) figure out relationships, that the meeting people part solves itself. But what is it about relationships that you need to know?

I thought I knew, I’ve had a few very good relationships that were exiting and fulfilling…until it came time to part ways. I knew how to get into relationships, how to maintain them, but I was recently caught by surprise about the ending part of a very serious relationship. Frankly (and perhaps unfortunately), my previous relationships just didn’t have the impact that this last one did. I now know why that is, and it doesn’t make my other relationships any lesser, they were just different.

During the aftermath of my breakup, I consulted with a lot of people about what was happening and what to do and I found that, while everyone had different ideas, no one (in the dating/attraction circles) really knew what they were talking about. No one. The single strategy that was repeated to me by several sources as to initiate ‘no contact’ with the ex-girlfriend, but NO ONE COULD EXPLAIN WHY (these circles are like that when it comes to relationships in particular, a lot of frou frou ideas about what love it, but without evidence or examples to support it)

That wasn’t good enough for me. You see, I’m a maven and I just don’t want to know what something is, I need to know how and why it works. I have an investigative and thorough mind and I research everything I can about a subject until those two subjects are satisfied. So I researched what happens at the end of a relationship (the breakup) and infidelity (cheating/divorce/etc…) and discovered what I would consider to be keys for relationship bliss. You see, in order to understand what happens in the end of the relationship, you have to examine how everyone got there in the first place, ideally from the beginning to the end. Many breakups are actually predictable at the start of a relationship in fact, and there are a lot of pitfalls and traps to avoid when it comes to maintaining a satisfying long term relationship.

And the key for me was to understand what was going on in the female mind during this experience. Believe me, it took a lot of research to even find information about this aspect, fortunately a friend gave me something to read that shed a lot of light on this.

Would you be surprised to learn that there is a divorce rate of at least 50% in North America and that most of these are initiated by women? We used to think that women are the more committed sex and that they are monogamous, but women are actually (hormonally) more polygamous than men by nature, and because of their social upbringing, they find themselves cheating more than men. There are many reasons for women wishing to end a relationship with a man (and men should be thankful for a swift end, many women put both parties in limbo by citing ‘being confused’ while their actions show that they have already made their choices causing much pain and suffering for a long time), and while it is true that men can be responsible for the breakdown of a relationship, the majority of possible reasons are with the woman herself and have nothing to do with the man.

There is a lot of bad conditioning out that that teaches men and women to make the same relational mistakes over and over. It’s the same old story: meet a guy, become infatuated, fall in love, have a relationship, break up, find a new guy, become infatuated, and so on. We are told to believe that there is the ‘one’ special person for us, or perhaps several potential special people for us, but in reality a successful relationship is not by the luck of the draw that you mean this perfect compatible person, a real loving and successful relationship takes work (communication is key, as is commitment, but also a discussion (today) of the long term purpose of the relationship – most couples don’t consider this in advance, until it’s too late). A testament to this is that most relationship experiences are predictable, that is, no matter how much you ‘love’ that person when you fall in love, all relationships end up in the same place – with dissatisfaction and turmoil when the honeymoon phase is over and the chemicals in your brain subsides. This is where the real work begins, yet only a small number of couples learn/realize this before its too late.

These are just a few minor examples of what I found fascinating and enlightening. Comments are welcome and I’ll try to respond to the backlash…er, I mean feedback.

Where does this leave me? Well, when I finally felt better about the previous relationship, did my research, and dated a lot with a few flings here and there ;-P. My perspectives and reasons for dating have matured and part of me wants to find a new love/another relationship, while the other part is telling me to use this period to grow and continue to build on new endevours. I have been actually working on this, I’ve been spending a lot of time planning on how to make my business grow and on putting what I know on paper (book, articles). Nothing is for sure right now, I’m just taking it one day at a time. 2009 is going to be great.

I had an awesome weekend.

Remember those girls I met at the Taboo the Naughty But Nice Sex show (which we’ll be at again in Abbotsford at the end of March – where I could use a proper cameraman)? Well, one of them came over Friday for a long spontaneous date where we did everything on the spur of the moment. We were going to watch a play, but as she got lost trying to find my Yaletown apartment, we took a stroll down to the local downtown movie theatre instead to see what was playing. There, I recalled that one of my coaches, Vincent King told me about the U23D film playing at the IMAX theatre (about 10 blocks away) and a short cab ride later, we sitting in the theatre, 3D glasses on, watching a giant sized Bono sing to us (it was an awesome film, all musicians should make one). It was even better than the real thing! Then it was back to Robson street for drinks and then to my place to “look at my book collection”.

The next day we had brunch, went shopping (well, she went shopping, I went to Starbucks to hang out with my buddy), had sushi and saw said play from the night before. The weekend went by quite quickly. She is a great girl.

As I sit here staring at a trinket she accidentally left in my washroom and eating a cookie she brought me on Friday, I’m reflecting on a part of the conversation where my friend jokingly asked me if ‘I was in love’. I explained to him no, but in actuality, the answer is, yes, but not to this girl.

Now first, this girl is great. When I saw her at the sex show, she was absolutely the most beautiful woman there. Tall, blonde and sexy. She’s taller than average and I saw many a guy become intimidated by her. So of course I tried to kiss her. I didn’t get the kiss, but I got the date and she knows everything about what I do. She saw my news feature on Global TV and is very curious about relationship issues (incidentally, while we were walking on Granville Street, a policeman recognized me from the spot as well, it was fun to get noticed, though I tend to shy away from such attention). She’s seen my photos and during our date I left for two hours to coach a client in a private session, while she hung out at my place. She’s got a wicked personality and some entertaining things have come out of her mouth.

But…she’s a Virgo. Which is the ultimate paradox. Female Virgo’s are sexy, yet notoriously hard to date and are known as the spinsters of the Zodiac. She has a lot of positive attributes from her sign of course, as she’s very independent and great with her finances, but as for myself, I am a fast starter. I live for passion, excitement and emotion, and I want it yesterday. Virgo’s, by nature are slow starters, as they need to gather and analyze information and take a while to decide if you are normal enough to trust you. Well, she and I get along great, we have chemistry, but…the jury is still out on this one.

On Sunday, my ex-girlfriend from last year called me out of the blue and asked to go for dinner. It was great to see her.

It’s So Hard To Say Goodbye To Yesterday (just a song for you to enjoy)

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.

I thought we’d get to see forever
But forever’s gone away
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

I don’t know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we’ve been
And what we’ve been through.

If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it’s worth all the wait
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I’ll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I’ll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

There is this fantastic myth that great seducers are always out there seducing all the time and that they can seduce anyone. While this is true when it comes to the seduction of the masses, I can assure you that this is NOT the case when we reduce it to every single interaction.

Sometimes people fall prey into believing this stereotype (fantasy) that was conceived in their own mind, or because they were told this is true, or they convinced themselves that this is true from a short term chance encounter with an individual who seems to ‘have it all’. But this short term glimpse of greatness is just that, how he is in the short term. In actually, it’s hard to maintain and project this on-all-the-time personality whilst being authentic. In reality, these great seducers are just guys, in the upper echelon of men, who have deep passion and deeper insight into relationships and how they affect women.

I have many well known friends both inside and out of the community, and I always make it a point to spend time with them in public settings, and I can tell you (without naming names) that I’ve seen guys get blown out, flat out rejected, slapped, and cussed at by women. I’ve seen guys talk to a woman only to see her roll her eyes when he walks away. I’ve seen good guys get nowhere with women.

Of course, I’ve seen guys do very well with women and seemingly create ‘magic’ out of thin air. But this is really only the minority of encounters, most encounters with women won’t lead anywhere or pan out – just by shear probability and human nature, it would be foolhardy to expect this to be otherwise. There is one key difference between men who are seducers and those who are not and it’s all in the mind - the great seducer believes that he can seduce anyone (an important part of developing the seducer psyche) and the reason why these men have so such success is because they are willing to put themselves out there and try more often than the average man.

But what does this mean? It means that to become accomplished in seduction (and remember, I use this term very loosely. It can be as simple as one single seduction that will get you the one you are to marry to seducing the masses in business and politics) that you do have to take more chances and take advantage of more opportunities to meet women. It also means that you will leave a trail of women behind you who think that you are an idiot, a jerk, loser, mean, non-caring, manipulative, clueless, or a player. And take note that there is a lot of disappointment and heartache involved (for both sexes), you have to be prepared for that and be able to learn very quickly.

Speaking for myself, there are certainly a few women that I’ve moved too fast with, or gone too far with. Speaking for others, well known figures or not, I know that they all have had similar experiences. Mystery, the worlds greatest “pick up artist” (ahem), once posed the question, is it worth it to have one thousand women hate you to have a lifetime of women love you (or something or other, I’m paraphrasing).

It’s frustrating when something doesn’t work out the way you hope, but hopefully this teaches you how to think ahead and be better in the future, as another key to becoming a seducer can be summed up in one word. Experience (your experience, not someone else’s that you read about on the internet).

An Example of Mismatching

But, I must also point out is that IT IS NOT ALWAYS YOUR FAULT. Yes, sometimes it is your fault, you stupid bastard, but other times this happens because of several reasons, one of which is compatibility. I have a strong belief in being compatibility (for long term relationships, but it’s also important for short term relationships, just not as much so). Some other variables when it comes to compatibility, include examining where you both are in life, the role society will play in your relationship (or how much you will let society influence your relationship) and your own individual desires and expectations.

This will be a large part of the relationship management of my book and my upcoming course, and, like most concepts that I develop, it needs to integrate with other concepts, such as positioning and goals that, combined with your expectations can determine what type of experience you can have with someone. Let me elaborate on this with a recent example of what I mean.

At the last Taboo the Naughty But Nice Sex Show (awesome show, by the way), I met a local business woman who worked in a very specific niche that I was interested in at one point. While at the show, we had an interesting chat about relationships and then she told me about some never-before-done venture that she is putting on. For some reason it sounded familiar to me and then I remembered that I had actually read about it in a local paper last year. We didn’t talk much more after that, as I was too busy working at the show, as was she, but a week or so later I get an email from her asking if I was interested in her venture to form a marketing partnership.

Sure, as I consider marketing to be a forte of mine, of course I would. But I was also intrigued in that she was a Sagittarius, as when two Sagittarius’s get together, it makes for interesting times (someone who actually understands a Sadge is usually another Sadge!). Ironically, I almost NEVER meet other Sagittarius’ or Aquarius’ (I meet a lot of Aries, Cancer, and lately, Virgos) and I am aching to meet more. (Side note: I would love to meet an Aquarius actually, as I’ve never met and hung out with one. Know any?). So we agree to meet and also continue the conversation without her boots and sequins.

It’s just a matter of finding a time to meet. These days I am so busy (well, all fire signs are always busy all days) that any meetings I make are spontaneously short notice, but we finally do make it out to a coffee shop the following Tuesday, and then to the Morrissey, I forgoing my friends who were trying to drag me out to a club, in lieu of the meeting and promising conversation.

And the conversation was…interesting and fun. We did talk about her venture, and then the conversation shifted into writing, energy, music, more relationships, and generally intriguing topics. I did find that I had to humor her quite a bit, however, as many of the things that we had discussed were things that I had previously contemplated, (i.e. I asked her to explain her version of what do people want vs. what people need, which I actually talk about in the coaching), but I was interested in her opinion, being the knowledge hungry / experiential person that I am.

Now, before I go on, I should give some background about her venture (without naming names of course). I am familiar with her type of business, very much so in fact as I have had two short term, deep (as deep as a short term relationships can be anyway) relationships with women in her field of work, one in Vancouver and another in Montreal. There are a lot of misconceptions and stereotypes floating around about her line of work, and I’ve seen a lot of what really goes on and I’ve done a lot of previous academic research about it in the past. I’ve even made categories for the different types of women in it.

The aforementioned women in her line of work, whom I previously dated were genuine, open, and wanting love and connection. They are both great girls, thus we got along. Other categories of women in that field include women who live for today, yet in a fantasy world, a little removed from reality. There are some who are hurt and were previously abused, and drugs always permeates into their lives, whether they want it to or not. There are single mothers, just trying to find a way to support her family. And, last but not least, there women who have a sense of entitlement, and who equate the value of their standard of life to what they can get, which is usually = a dollar amount. There are a few more descriptions and the women may be a combination of several of these (and keep in mind that this I am generalizing in broad strokes here, don’t chastise me for reducing people).

This local business woman was definitely more of the last category, being an independent woman (i.e. the true definition of a fire sign). During our meeting, when she relaxed and spoke honestly about things, she actually looked 10 years younger, and when she caught herself off guard and put her up a protective personality (not surprising in her line of work, where I’m sure she gets ALL types of guys approaching her) she definitely seems like a different person. Sometimes I would lean in, and if I was leaning in too much, then I’d lean back and she’d start to lean in and before we knew it, 9:20pm turned to 12:15am and it was time to call it a night.

After the meeting, I did wonder what the point was. I hoped I made a new friend as I am intrigued by her work (sadly, she’s not the type that I would consider to date. Just in the wrong category that doesn’t appeal to me unfortunately, which is kinda ironic as I am very easy going and open minded).

Follow Up

The next day, I heard on the radio that U23D had just come out that day, and I recalled that she was a huge fan, so I asked her if she wanted to come to a ‘surprise’, but, no, she had plans.

A week later, while at the Vancouver Wellness Show, I texted her again some small talk, as it was a long and tiring show and I felt like I had to go out and do something interesting, but alas this is were our expectations diverged and again nothing happened.

Moral of this Story

Even though we’re both true to form Sagittarius, where we differed was in our expectations, which I had surmised early on, but had been too busy to give it much thought at the time (in fact, I should be working now, as I’m creating some awesome new initiatives for everyone, hopefully to launch in March).

The difference in our expectations for this entire encounter dictated what we wanted to get out of it (aka, desire), thus, if these don’t match, it will lead to…well, nothing really. And that is what happened in this story. When we met:

My expectation was that I thought I was making a new friend and treated her as so.
Her expectation was that she thought she was making a new customer and treated me as so.

Basically, we positioned each other differently, as is common when people meet, but we never got repositioned to some mutual ground.

Is it either of our faults that our expectations are different? No, as people have their own lives to live. What was our fault was our failure to read ahead, as we rushed into the total interaction without considering all the variable. It is possible to fake compatibility, which happens all the time, but which I DO NOT condone, because in the end, it leaves two people hurt, deceived and unsatisfied. It’s better to take the more honest approach then deal and adapt.

It’s certainly not the easiest, but the fastest way to get to the point (if that is what you want – I also can talk about not getting to the point, ergo, the male vs female way, haaa). But in the end, every step you take away from what you don’t want brings you closer to what you do want.

PS: So what about the venture we discussed? It’s a huge undertaking that’s for sure. As I do support the cause and because it’s partially for charity,  I will make an offer to help. Every little bit helps.

We are not your typical dating coach, and definitely far from the new fad of seduction community” coaches that are found on the internet today.

No, while we are aware that the popular notion of seduction is that it is deceitful and manipulative (i.e. seduction is a bad word), we are doing our best to change that status quo.

What is seduction? It is the discovery of chemistry between a couple (man and woman, or otherwise) and their dance of love, coming together, and moving apart, until finally, they collapse in each other’s arms in a total heap. Seduction has been around for ages, if you think about it, every man who chased after and got a woman was at one point a seducer. Every woman who ‘let’ a man chase her was a seductress.

Seduction brings excitement to our lives.

We teach men the higher ideas of seduction, leading men to have better relationships with women, where women in turn feel loved and appreciated. And we learned the hard way, through many years of banging our head against the wall and piercing our hearts with the lances of many woman we’ve loved, so that today, you don’t have to (or hopefully not as much!).

At the end of the day, I believe seduction is…actually spiritual. No, really, hear me out as I’m only going to dabble about this here, but it is one of man’s human pursuits that actually requires a higher level of though and harmony with everything else one has in the world. That is a topic for a later book in about 10 years, haaa.

But to get to a place where seduction is comfortable (and trust me here, I’m friends with many of the great seducers in the world, everyone is always trying to find something more to be comfortable with) is through going through a process of personal, interpersonal, and emotional development, where at some point you learn how to become attractive to women and woman appreciate your presence because you appreciate theirs.

Find us at www.manmeetswoman.com.

Cary Grant’s birthday would have been this month. He is my ultimate role model, tall, handsome, did incredibly well with women. I love his movies, I have every movie of his I could find, and he definite has a seductive way with women (and people), the true charmer that he is. What really appeals to me is how clever he is at affecting women. True, you can argue that it’s actually the script writer that is putting the words in his mouth, but it’s how he does the talk.

He is also an example of someone who became a natural from being…not. He was uncharismatic and had to develop into the person he ultimately became.

Here are a few quotes of his I found on the internet.

“I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until finally I became that person. Or he became me.”

“Ah, beware of snobbery; it is the unwelcome recognition of one’s own past failings.”

“Do your job and demand your compensation - but in that order.”

“Everyone wants to be . Even I want to be .”

“I think that making love is the best form of exercise.”

“My father used to say, ‘Let them see you and not the suit. That should be secondary.’”

“My formula for living is quite simple. I get up in the morning and I go to bed at night. In between, I occupy myself as best I can.”

“When people tell you how young you look, they are telling you how old you are.”

“Divorce is a game played by lawyers.”

“To succeed with the opposite sex, tell her you’re impotent. She can’t wait to disprove it.”

I have a new course coming up in two weeks, The Art of Seduction (February 9th and 10th). This is the first time I’ve taught this in Vancouver and it will be specifically about how to initiate sexual intimacy with women and (long term) relationship management. I’ll be posting the course outline in detail soon, but one of the things from the course is:

Want to Sweep Someone Off Their Feet for Love and a Relationship? Then you need to know their Love Blueprint and Attraction Mechanism.

Every so often we meet someone we really like and become infatuated with. As we carry a torch for this person, we imagine what it would be like to have a long term relationship with her. You may even have gone on a few dates already and yet, very often, one side (for the sake of this article, let’s say the guy’s side) is hoping for and is left disappointed when nothing happens in the end.

So like two ships passing in the night it’s time to move on after a brief time spent together. Heartbreaking.

If you want your casual relationship to develop into something more, then you need to know two things. Her Love Blueprint and her Attraction Mechanism.

What are these? Her Love Blueprint is her internal map for how she feels loved, usually influenced by her parental role models as she was growing up, by how they expressed love and how they reacted and responded to each other. This taught her what feelings to associate with being in a long term relationship and what love must feel like. Sometimes, in a positive and affectionate upbringing, this is easy to understand. Other times, this may mean delving into dark territory if one of her parents was abusive towards another and she may associate these feelings of chaos to mean love.

Her Attraction Mechanism is more immediate and is the minimum that is needed to be triggered for her to become attracted to you. This is usually much easier to discern and can be any combination of buttons you push, from physical attractiveness, to humorous teasing, to putting her into a state of falling in love.

If you are trying to execute a fast seduction for kisses and dates (sweep her off her feet), then her Attraction Mechanism is all that is needed.

But if you are seeking a long term relationship with someone with whom you believe you are compatible with and would be good together, a key to making yourself important in her life is to discover what her Love Blueprint is and combine that knowledge with her Attraction Mechanism so that she sees you that way.

Hey Guys I am about to give a pre-announcement for a New Course that has never been taught before in Vancouver, The Art of Seduction bootcamp.

But before I go on and tell you more, I want to stress that this course is NOT for everyone.

First, this is an advanced course that requires that you already have experience with women, that you understand your own value, that you know how to listen to them, and that you have a general sense for the flow of an interaction with women.

Second, the focus of this course is very specific, it will cover initiating sexual intimacy and relationship management and is only for those men who wish to learn this exclusive knowledge to have better relationships with women. Not everyone will be accepted into the course as it is important to me that my clients have the utmost best intentions and are concerned about creating mutual happiness for women.

WHAT is the Art of Seduction bootcamp?It is a two day weekend course (February 9th and 10th) that covers the next phase in my Advanced Seduction model and is designed to specifically teach you how to create a sexual relationship with women. But it is also much more than that (it would be irresponsible of me to stop there). It will also include topics such as relationship management, compatibility, how to tell when your relationship isn’t working, when to call it quits, plus much much more.Starting Monday, January 28th, I will be sharing more information about the course on this blog (http://www.manmeetswoman.com/blog/ronald/) to give you a clearer idea of what the course is about.

I’ll be disclosing the actual course outline as well as share articles from the course such as How to Sweep a Woman Off Her Feet, Deciding What You Want Vs. What You Need, Creating Sexual Compliance, etc….

Please stay tuned. If you have heard enough and are ready to sign up for the course, now, then by all means, just follow this link which will take you to the website for Man Meets Woman.

FREE TALK JANUARY 31ST

NOW, what was the purpose of that title?

I will be holding a free talk on January 31st on The Top Three Ways to Create Sexual Intimacy with Women, as part of my Advanced Seduction Talk. If you have been to the talk , than this will serve as a recap of what you’ve heard before and will also cover new information that no one has heard until now.

The talk will be from 7:00pm to 9:00pm and will be at 1009 Expo Blvd, in downtown Vancouver. If you would like to attend, please RSVP by email.

Please stay tuned, and really make the time for yourself to read these articles over the next few weeks. I welcome your feedback and comments. Tell your friends.

Best regards,

Man Meets Woman

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I am fortunate that I have a few good friends in my life.  People I can trust, confide in and value their opinion. Of course, I wouldn’t have them in my life if they weren’t, I have been known to cut people (and ex-girlfriends) from my life if I catch them being dishonest, even flakey.

One of my long time close friends came over last night unexpectedly. I was happy to see him, I’ve just been so busy over the last year that I hadn’t been in contact with a lot of people, and I even had some golfing books that I had meant to give him over Christmas that were still sitting on my shelf. So he came with his wife and his really cute and talkative four year old daughter, both of whom I missed as well, and we chatted about how things are going and how happy and proud he was of what I was doing. He ‘got it’, he understood the message that I am trying to convey (that real attraction starts with you, for both men and women).

Unfortunately, he told me about another good friend of mine, whom I also haven’t seen for about a year and a half (could be longer) who is totally skeptical of this whole thing. He was skeptical when I first told him about this in the early 2000’s and he still skeptical now (and without girlfriend), saying it would never work. It’s ironic that it seems that many of the well known coaches I know all seem to have one guy friend who is a non-believer when the person who could best help them is right beside them. Woodhaven/Vince DiCarlo has a friend like this, Zan has a friend like this, Cortez has a friend like this. I have a friend like this.

Sure, with all the bad social programming that has happened over the last 50 years (we call this the social matrix), there will always be guys who will skeptical, who don’t believe in the power of self improvement and attraction. Perhaps in all these cases above, however, these are all friends who knew us before we dropped hints and let people know that we had found a hidden truth about women and relationships. Afterall, we are all well known and respected now, but thinking back, almost every one of us started out as a guy who was very clueless, hurt, frustrated and hid our skills and progress from all our friends in the developmental years. That is starting to change now, as young men today are being either bolder, or just don’t care what people think, about their desire to get this part of their life handled. When this hits the mainstream you will see even more men admit that they spent some time trying to learn how to do better with the opposite sex from an external source (i.e. internet, newsletters, DVD’s, community).

I’ve been giving a lot of thought as to whether to continue the blog (if you have been following along, you’d see that it’s against my astrological nature to publicize my personal experience with random strangers – no offense. I am happy to educate my clients and close friends, but spreading it through the internet, ugh).

Fortunately, I decided over the weekend, “hell yeah, let’s do it!”

The reason is I have a number of things coming up and will be starting a seduction focus group after I teach my Art of Seduction bootcamp (first time in Vancouver) and I do wish to share as much information as I can to everyone who wants it –  because my perspective is different, more direct and effective, and of a higher technical and philosophical level from, well, pretty much everything that I’ve seen offered out there.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made friends in the “seduction community” whom I respect and think are great, such as Badboy, Cortez, and Vince DiCarlo, it’s just that my perspective is different.

So this won’t be a typical journaling blog, it will be part journal and mostly an educational blog for the next little while. I hope you are ok with that.

As for myself and who I am…at elaborate on my bio here, at Man Meets Woman, I was one of the first guys in the seduction community which really started online, with the advent of the internet. I first got exposed to it as a wee teenager in 1995 but didn’t really take it seriously until 1997/98. At the time, many of the well known gurus teaching in the United States today, were guys, who like me, had questions about women and came to the community wanting to learn more.

The community evolved quite fast and pretty much everything that is being regurgitated online now had come out by 2002. It seems that as the internet becomes more and more popular, more and more hapless men are looking to it for help with women.

So I’ve made friends through the community, seen “thousands” of guys go through it, and learned a few things in the beginning, yet I’ve been pushing myself away from it over the last couple of years because it does not resonate with my own core values. 

I think the community (i.e. most internet dating advice) misses its point. I don’t necessarily agree with tricks, routines, and techniques and I believe that an internal focus is required by the student of attraction and seduction. This is called inner game where one develops and understanding of himself and his own value (i.e. confidence) and I have been teaching guys to become more aware of themselves and what’s going on. I think perhaps a lot of the attitudes, goals, and solutions presented by the community are shallow and of a lower level as well, and that, in my perspective, after many years of study, much of it is in fact, wrong. And one thing that I specifically notice is that there is a lack of information on relationship management and love. I guess guys are still trying hard to take care of the initial meeting and many don’t get to the later stages of the relationship.

Welcome to the Natural Game Introspective.

Sunday was the fourth and last day of the Taboo show. All the exhibitors looked like crap when the show started. I guess the show took its toll on everyone. The guys at Canwest Shows did an awesome job to this point and they probably got the least sleep out of everyone.

I spent the last two days designing and photocopying flyers to hand out and didn’t get much rest myself. When I work hard, I don’t like to eat too much either, and I guess I felt great having eaten less junk food and basically operating on adrenaline.

Oh, and also because I brought my video camera and set it up in my booth. First, Vince gave the talks for both Man Meets Woman and Happy Sexy You on Sunday, the best ones of the show, and ironically, he didn’t feel that these talks were great. The tables were well staffed on the last day and the guys were great, they worked their butts off, so I had to take them out for dinner (sushi and Korean BBQ buffet) after.

Ok, back to the camera. Given that the last three days were so full of adventure, I put my camera in my booth and decided to see what I could film in two hours. I really should have had it in the previous days, but it wasn’t really on the forefront of my mind, plus my microphone wasn’t working properly (I think I fixed it now).

Sunday didn’t disappoint, as it was more of the same, meeting the lovely ladies. I put up a few minutes from the day, as an experiment, and I’m only half sure I want to put this up here, as I’m quite a private person, usually. I might remove it at a moment’s whim.

After the show, we packed up quite fast and got out of there. Anything broken or lost? Just one chair. Not bad, all things considered.

After thoughts of the 2008 Taboo show

Again, Darryl, Todd, and the crew at Canwest Shows did a great job. This is my fourth show of theirs I’ve been to and this one was probably the best one yet. The layout was good, people were great all around.

Business wise, we made a lot of good contacts and I was quite happy that so many people who recognized us from somewhere (news or radio) came over to say hello and chat. We also got a lot of new prospects, which is always great. We have big plans for the next show already and have a number of things in the works with various partners.

One thing I noticed as well in these entries, is that I blogged a lot about my experiences with the women at the show. I don’t usually blog, though I do keep a journal, and my last attempt at a blog was abandoned after a few months. I actually don’t usually talk about women as well, I guess blogging has its limitations on what is deemed the most interesting at the time.

Being on the cusp of Sagittarius and Capricorn, I usually don’t like to share my personal life and when I do (even when writing these entries) I feel like I’m either showing off, or being childish, as I believe in not blowing your own horn with certain things. Likely I’m doing both. But I think I’ll continue to blog for the next little while, as some interesting things may happen as I’m about to take a handful of guys into what I call Seduction coaching (which is different and more advanced than Attraction coaching).

It should make for some interesting times.

PS: Oh yes, what of the women I met during the show? I’ve set up my dates already and am really looking forward to quality time with them. I guess I want another relationship. I’ll explain more about this in a future entry.